Things you need to know before getting married. (Tips on having a perfect marriage)

Thins you must sort out with your spouse-to-be before getting married if you want to have a happy marriage 

There are many things you need to discuss with your spouse-to-be before getting married to him/her in order to have a happy and long lasting marriage.

1.      Your Sex Life:  According to research, more than 50% of marriage failures, problems and divorce is caused by sex related problems. Some marriages get broken up because either they cannot get an issue or because one of the couple is cheating on the other. Before you get married to any man or woman, make sure that you get yourselves all the necessary tests ranging from diseases, infections, genotype, and also checking your reproductive organs or cells. You can visit an expert for consultation so as to assist you on the necessary tests you need to do so that you can be sure of your partner before getting married to him/her.

Another related issue which is also common is the fact of not being able to be satisfied by your partner and as a result go on to cheat on him/her or make you feel uninterested anytime you partner wants to sleep with you. This particular problem is common with the women. Therefore, before getting married, make out time to talk with your spouse-to-be, know what each other like about sex, what you would want from each other in bed and try and agree on a particular thing. I promise you, it will be fun and interesting and you will find out how much good you have done yourself and your marriage after that. Don’t be shy to discuss about it because it’s the problem most people have especially women. They feel that talking about it makes them feel like a whore or a prostitute.  Let me ask you “if you don’t become a whore to your spouse, then who will?”  You both are going to get married and 10/10 times will sleep together, so if you don’t plan what will happen there and how you want it to happen, I sure can promise you that your marriage has a 50% chance of having problems.

2.       Your Finances: Over 17% of marriage failures are a result of finance; who makes more money, who takes care of what and so on. Most women won’t respect their husband/spouse if they earn much more than their husband and as a result are taking care of most of the family’s financial problems. Some even go to the extent of treating their husbands as slaves just because they don’t have anything doing or that they were sacked from their places of work without even asking how the husband treated them when they had the financial power.

Therefore, before you get married, especially for the men, try and sit with your spouse-to-be and discuss with her. Table your financial situation to her and be honest about it, she will also bring up her own and together you will agree whether you both are comfortable with what you both have. Discuss about who will be taking care of what and how things relating to money should be done and agree before agreeing to the marriage. If it’s not ok with the both of you, better quit or wait until you get to a reasonable level before you take the bold step of getting married except you are ready to take anything you see in the marriage.

3.      Your Religion: Over 20% of marriage failures are as a result of differences in religion. Some religions discriminate the others. Don’t just marry someone that you cannot cope with when it comes to your religion and belief and then all because of love, you expect to change him/her. It’s a 50-50 chance and when it backfires, the result is never funny. Even in the Christian community, if you are a catholic and you know fully well that your spouse is maybe a protestant or an Anglican and you cannot reach a compromise with your partner on where to worship, am looking at a marriage filled with crises. Most times, it end up affecting the children as they will become divided, some following in the faith of the dad while some follow the faith of the mum and in the end, the family will be divided and possibly a divorce. 

4.      Your Tribe: Tribe is another thing to consider although in recent times, it has reduced with respect to being a marriage determining factor. Some people don’t marry from a particular tribe maybe as a result of the law of their community. These days, people even marry from other states, geographical zones, countries and even continents. So, it’s not much of a factor like the first three but still consider it because it can also lead to marriage divorce if not properly taken care of…

I hope this article was helpful to you…

Happy Married Life…